A few days ago, my brother called me.
“Claudia, can you go and pick up the kids from school?” I hesitated.
“Well, I would go, but you know, I’m kinda busy… I’d rather save time.”
“Okay, don’t worry, I’ll ask mum.”
As soon as I hung up the phone, I questioned my decision.
I could have gone. I actually have time, I only don’t want to go.
That’s about priorities!
If you can relate to this situation probably, like me, you need to adjust your time management. Most often, we tell ourselves and others that we don’t have time, but it’s not true. We have time, but we lack energies to do something. It’s about setting up priorities.
When my brother called me, I had just finished my work, and I still needed to do a handful of things. My daily stretching session, the grocery store, the chapter of that book I am studying… they were waiting for me! I realized that going to pick up the kids was not my priority, and I felt a bit bad for this. Not because I abandoned them in the middle of nowhere, of course there was someone else ready to and pick them up. I felt bad because I realized that I wanted to make time for this. I really wanted to put into my priority list that of spending time with my nephews.
Can you relate? Perhaps, when you finish your work, you are so tired that you don’t feel like reading that self-help book you bought a few weeks ago. Watching TV is much better. Similarly, wearing your sport clothes and go jogging, or even having a walk, seems way too demanding. You prefer spending time laying on your sofa and scrolling down your Instagram feed.
Don’t blame yourself for feeling tired: some healthy time for resting is essential. But spending time online is not helpful at all. I’ll dig deeper in this topic in my next post. Meanwhile, I want to give you some useful videos that deal with the way we spend our time.
Today I will share with you some TED Talks that deal with this tricky topic. I hope they can help you understand and prioritize the things that matter the most to you, both in your personal and professional sphere.
Here we go!
1. Carl Honoré – In Praise of Slowness.
The main point of this speech is: is it possible to slow down? With a dynamic and engaging speech, Carl Honoré brings us to reflect about the way we deal with time. It seems that we want to speed up even our process of saving time. This hectic race affects both our career and our personal life. In this talk, he shows some of the reasons why we can’t slow down and sets up a strategy to overcome them.
2. Nigel Marsh – How to Make Work-Life Balance Work.
For many of us, it’s quite difficult to find a balance between the hours spent at work and the hours we dedicate to our personal life. Hobbies, family, friends: we need to nurture our relationships and take care of our well-being. And if we want to do it properly, we can’t ignore that we need to have a balance between work and spare time.
3. Guy Winch – How To Turn Off Work During Your Free Time
For many of us, work doesn’t end when we leave the office. We keep on thinking about what we need to do the next day, ruminating about our mistakes, and stressing because we desperately want to organize our busy schedules. As Guy Winch points out in this beautiful speech, you need to stop having job-related thoughts in your free time. How to do that? Patience, exercise, and a lot of self-discipline.
4. Laura Vanderkam – How to Gain Control of Your Free Time
Laura Vanderkam is a time management expert. Her talk is engaging and offers practical examples of how we can organize our time. She points out that, most of the times, when we say that we don’t have time for something we are not giving priority to that thing. Set up your priorities, and remember that taking care of yourself is one of those.
5. Kelly McGonigal – How to Make Stress Your Friend
Bad-quality time leads us to stress. I wanted to finish my list of powerful TED Talks with this brilliant and emotional speech by Kelly McGonigal. That’s definitely worth watching. Stress is bad, makes our hearts beat faster and our blood pressure increase. I love this speech because it introduces us to a new way to deal with stress. Stop seeing it as an enemy and approach to the problem with a new, more compassionate way.
Put those strategies into practice!
Well done! Now you have some useful resources to reflect about the way you organize your time. Remember that you need discipline and hard work. Don’t rush, as changing the way we think, act and organize our days is a long process. But I’m sure that if you do little and constant steps everyday, you’ll have huge benefits in the long run.
Take your time to watch these talks, watch them again if needed, take notes.
That’s all for today, and thank you for taking your time to read this!